Wednesday, January 03, 2007

It's so hard to do the right thing sometimes. It's easy to differentiate whether it's the right thing or not, but following through can be difficult. A situation came up over the weekend regarding my daughter. Two of her friends and her were involved in a scheme and went somewhere and lied to each of the parents. We're talking...breaking municipal curfew, being passengers in a vehicle (who knows whether the driver was under the influence), being in a dangerous part of town, and being in a situation with guys where they were vulnerable. My daughter felt uncomfortable and called to be picked up. She was supposed to be at her friend's house. I took them both home.

(After two days of being sick, I was able to go do the right thing.) The hardest part was telling the parents. The look in the parents' eyes with disappointment and confusion. One dad said he had suspected it for a while (that the daughter was sneaking out) but had no proof. The other mom was in a panic and couldn't understand that her daughter had lied to her. It was so sad...

Yep, my daughter will be in the doghouse with her friends, and may them as friends, which may not be a bad thing. But, I feel secure in the knowledge that had I may have saved those lives and/or undue stress/trauma by telling their parents.

And in twenty years, when they are parents of teenagers, they'll hopefully remember this and thank me.

1 comment:

Mich said...

That doghouse is filled with parents who do the right thing and take responsibility for their teens. It's filled with moms (and dads) who love their kids enough to really piss them off for the right reason. And, it's filled with moms who, someday, will be told "thanks" by their grown up kids.